Jan. 3 2020
“I’m here to tell you that no one loves her bedtime routine quite like this working mama,” says Katya Libin, and yeah, we believe her. The native New Yorker is Co-Founder and CEO of HeyMama, a membership community for ambitious working moms. She’s also mom to 8-year-old Lili and believes in the power of wine. In other words, our kind of CEO. Here’s Katya’s nightly routine.
6:30 P.M. Definitely home, definitely trying to figure out what to cook for dinner. I love the feeling of coming home, turning on a favorite Spotify playlist and cooking. I’m no Barefoot Contessa, so I keep it mostly simple with roasted veggies and pasta. (The Italians do dinner right, so I’m not recreating the wheel here!) My daughter Lili will often do her homework on the counter while I cook. We’ll chat about what went wrong and what went right that day, and occasionally break into a dance party if a favorite song comes on.
7 P.M. If all goes according to plan, we’re sitting down to eat. We have a tradition called rose, bud, thorn where we talk about our days. The thorn is where we start, and this is where I usually get the real deal of what happened in 3rd grade. The bud is what’s getting better, and the rose is just your most glorious moment.
8 P.M. Recently, we’ve been doing a new tradition called Reading Hour. My daughter admittedly reads way more than I do, so this is a way for us to lie in her bed, each poring over our own books. It’s so nice to do something at the same time, and wind down from a busy day! Best thing I ever did was introduce books into her life and [help her] develop a love for them.
8:30 P.M. In a perfect world, Lili’s asleep. Every night, I play her the same playlist, a combination of Ed Sheeran and Disney soundtracks, and sometimes I wonder if she’ll need this bedtime playlist for the rest of her life. I imagine her in college, putting on this very playlist, and it equally makes me laugh and cry… In terms of my schedule, I love the quiet working hours of post-bedtime. A few days a week, I like to crank on some emails before bedtime. Even just an hour makes me feel more organized.
9 P.M. Still cranking on emails to be 100% honest! My team members are also night owls, and we regularly have slack chats or emails at this hour. I’m also wearing my softest PJ’s and if I’m really feeling cozy, I make myself some Press Pause CBD tea.
9:30 P.M. If I’m good, I’ll start to wind down on the emails and go to the skincare portion of the evening. I take my time… I do all the steps. I am a podcast-obsessed person, and I like the following nighttime talks for a relaxed state: Secular Buddhism, Rebecca Minkoff’s Superwomen, and Tim Ferris. Around 10 p.m., I make a nightly call with my boyfriend to check in on each other’s days… He’s a CEO as well, and we’re super supportive of one another. After a final “I love you,” I put on my Lunya sleep mask and say goodnight to another beautifully hectic 24 hours.
Bedtime: Over the past few weeks, I shifted my schedule to have a 10 p.m. bedtime and 6 a.m. wake up, so I can meditate for 15 minutes before I start the day. It’s completely shifted my energy, and seems more suited for the winter months when it gets darker earlier. I think come summer, I’ll shift to an 11 p.m. bedtime, but this approach feels best suited for me right now. My body is giving me a huge hug for getting to bed at the time I’m naturally sleepy, as opposed to the overtired state I get in when I stay up just a bit too late. It’s hard to stay disciplined, but my productivity and effectiveness are really paying off. Someone told me I was “so calm and focused” in my meetings, she wanted to know what I had done differently. Sleep, baby. It’s all about that sleep.