If only catching zzz’s was as easy as catching feels… Thanks to Tamar and Geraldine Gottesman, it can be. The mother-daughter duo battled with insomnia for years, spending many late nights texting each other product recs that might hold the key to that mythical good night’s sleep. (Like a unicorn or a comfortable pair of jeans, we’re not sure it really exists.) When they finally found the self-care rituals of their sweet dreams, they decided to share their snooze secrets with the rest of us. They created The Sleep Code, a one-stop-shop for all things comfy and cozy. “We knew insomnia was a force others were reckoning with, and hoped they could come to the site and find something to make falling asleep less painful,” Tamar says.

Now, they’re spilling the Sleepytime tea on their nighttime routines. From PJs to eyeshades to aromatherapy, consider this your one-way ticket to the land of Nod.

6 P.M.
TAMAR: Self-care is something that’s consistently changing day to day. People tend to have a very rigid definition of it—and put almost as much pressure on it as they do on other aspects of life—so I’m trying to be more intuitive about what it means to me. It changes according to my moods, which makes my relationship to it more enjoyable and less like a chore. The second I come home, I change into something comfy. It may not be PJs right away, but I do love a tracksuit. I’ve been living in the Monrow Supersoft Jogger we have on our site. Then I write in my diary, which could vary from a simple observation to an in-depth analysis about my day. It manages to put things in perspective almost immediately and really helps me relieve stress.
GERALDINE: When I come home from the office, I light a candle, and at the moment [I’m using] ones from D.S. & Durga. Then there’s tea time, which has transitioned since we started talking so much about reducing caffeine. Being brought up in the UK, you always had proper English Breakfast tea around 5 o’clock and, me being me, I’d add milk and sugar to it—a bad combination. I’ve now eliminated that for a more herbal situation.

7 P.M.
TAMAR: I’ll call someone, like a sibling or my mom, and make some tea. I like the Leaves and Flowers brand, but if it’s earlier in the day, I find myself craving our turmeric latte blends. Then I’ll have some dinner, and I don’t have any strict rules about what not to eat before bed. I’ll try not to go overboard on consuming sugar, but honey and tea can satiate that desire. I don’t like to be picky, and I enjoy trying new things.
GERALDINE: I finish up my emails and have dinner. I’m not a big drinker, so that’s really not in the equation, and I don’t eat pudding. So I’ve pretty much removed the sugar and the alcohol, and I eat everything else.

9 P.M.
TAMAR: Two hours before sleep is when my unwinding process happens. I’m a skincare fiend and I enjoy using it as a meditative process, especially when my insomnia’s bad. So if I’m feeling particularly indulgent, I’ll use this microcurrent device called the ZIIP that’s bizarrely soothing. Then I’m using the de Mamiel Restorative Cleansing Balm and Soon Jung’s toner, and we just launched Dr. Barbara Sturm products, so I use her hyaluronic acid serum and cream as well. I also love a gua sha with an oil, like the Odacité and LOLI oils.
GERALDINE: I’m a great believer of going to bed clean, so I’m all about the soak and love my bath salts, which I do believe help you get a good night’s sleep. We launched a new brand called Nature of Things, which has a magnesium soak that’s so lovely. Then I do PJs, and we’ve been enjoying the Sleep Code sets we just launched. But I also have a lot of Eberjey, which is really cozy. As for beauty, I’m enjoying Dr. Barbara Sturm’s products as well.

10 P.M.
TAMAR: I turn on my white noise machine—I’m unable to sleep without it. Then I put on eyeshades because I have to be in a cocoon. Once that’s going, I turn on my diffuser. I love experimenting with aromatherapy oils. I’ve gone back and forth between Vitruvi’s and Campo’s. Then I start reading. I just finished 2 books: Huma Abedin’s Both/And and Emily Ratajkowski’s My Body. I highly recommend both. They celebrate 2 women that are in totally different spaces but are equally inspiring.
GERALDINE: I like the bed sorted very specifically, so I use a weighted blanket, pillow spray, and the little bits by my bed that give me comfort. I try to turn off the tech at a reasonable hour and move on to a book. I just picked up one called The Other Side of the Coin that’s very sweet, and the other one I’m reading is called The Personal Librarian. It’s about J.P. Morgan when he was setting up his library in New York, and it’s written as a fictional book but is based on true facts, which is super interesting. Then I use eyeshades as well. In order to perform to the best we can on all levels, we need to be able to address our sleep, and part of what we’re trying to do is make people more comfortable about having that conversation.